Book review · Red Sistémica
Living as a couple, or the art of harmonising differences
Love is the fruit neither of magic nor of chance: it is the constant, responsible and unique creation of two beings. In this short essay, the Argentine writer Sergio Sinay explores the subtlest nuances of the loving bond and proposes concrete tasks for life as a couple.
A profound, mature and necessary text. A new paradigm of love: love is the fruit neither of magic nor of chance, it is the constant, responsible and unique creation of two beings summoned by that marvellous energy.
Love is not a state one undergoes: it is a task one carries out together.
Presentation of Vivir de a dos
In this book, Sergio Sinay explores with lucidity and sensitivity the subtlest and deepest aspects and nuances of the loving bond. Vivir de a dos scrutinises shared life from day to day, takes up the essential themes of this feeling and proposes, on solid foundations, concrete tasks for the loving consolidation of the couple.
This book review is an English translation of “Vivir de a dos. O el arte de armonizar las diferencias. Propuestas para una tarea amorosa.”, published by Red Sistémica (first published in Red Sistémica). Translated and republished with the journal’s permission.
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Des Champs, C. (2022). Living as a couple, or the art of harmonising differences (Complexe Systémique, Trans.). Complexe Systémique. https://app.complexe-systemique.com/en_GB/articles/living-as-a-couple-or-the-art-of-harmonising-differences (Original work published in 2022 in Red Sistémica; republished in 2022 by Red Sistémica, https://redsistemica.ar/2022/08/01/vivir-de-a-dos-o-el-arte-de-armonizar-las-diferencias-propuestas-para-una-tarea-amorosa/)
To go further
- What therapists know about couplesWhat clinical practice confirms, or does not, of the “paradigm of love” proposed here.
- The six forms of intimacy in the couple: a systemic and clinical perspectiveThe nuances of the loving bond, set out from a systemic point of view.
- Couple therapy: “urgency for sameness” or “appreciation of difference”Michael White on the art of harmonising differences, on the therapy side.
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